“BEING” all that ya Man really needs

Have you ever question if you are really with the man that’s right for ya?  Will you ever find the love that you’re always dreaming of?  What does it really take to find him, catch him and keep him?  I know I have and it’s not because I don’t possess confidence or I feel unattractive and plagued by low self-esteem but I am well aware that I have not reached that level of consciousness to bring out the irresistible, compelling characteristics that will truly connect to a man’s heart without much effort.  Yes ladies, I said without trying; sounds very impossible right?  I am going to share with you a few points that will literally score you the way to a man’s heart.

On the contrary, do you know the saying that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach?”   I’m afraid to disappoint y’all that it’s all a myth and there’s no truth to it; well back to the drawing board.   Do you believe that you need to show a man that you are the woman of his dream?  Have you ever been with that guy that seemed perfect in your eyes; compatibility is at its max but for some odd reason he just pulled away in the nick of time when you felt everything was going great?  There’s a valid reason for this shift.

Ladies, it’s quite simple, men want you to be just who you are and not what you think you should do.  Sorry to disappoint all the females who have all the great tricks in the book that keeps him excited and wanting more treats but there’s no staying power.  This one also goes out to the females who feel like they need to give a man all that he needs and wants (being accommodating and very generous).  Great sex, money, house, car and a child will not make a man want you anymore than he wants a one night stand.  In other words, there’s no need to sacrifice your needs for his to make him want to be with you, showing him how faithful you are to him will not cut it either and neither is convincing him to fall in Love with you.  Now, don’t get it twisted ladies into thinking that you are going to be lazy and wait around to be rescued; you do have your work cut out for you if you don’t know how to lead.

Leading by example is a great recipe to the mix in that you must be able to work on you and connecting with your feminine side.  Being the delicate little flower that you are supposed to be; enabling him to exercise his masculinity, try being in the moment when you are with him while enjoying his company and attention that you yearn for so much all amount to one thing, it spikes a man’s interest and desire to be with you (his heart and soul will be fully engaged).  I can’t stress how much women need to learn to love; loving yourself first is key because then and only then you can receive it when it is given.  Men are deemed to love you and in return you should respect him (Eph.5: 25-27 NKJV).

Speaking of respect, a man finds solitude in working hard for what he wants.  If for any reason you make yourself an easy catch and commit yourself without him investing too much in you, then he won’t value you.  Men are competitive by nature so you have to make yourself unavailable sometime if you’re married; if you’re single, continue dating other men so he can enjoy the thrill of winning you over.  In both situations, he will realize that you make yourself a top priority instead of him, and you put your happiness first which means you can never ever re-arrange your plans for him, invest your all in him or do all you can for him. 

Instead, you enable him to do all the doing like making plans for future dates, re-arranging his schedule just to see you.  No need to look further than each date because if he’s a man that is worth your time and effort, he is already a provider, protector and have more than a willingness to profess his love for you.  Intrigue him on how high you esteem yourself, enabling him to realize that you are the catch, the prize, and he will do everything in his power to woo and win you over.  As a result, he is rest assured that you do have a clear idea of who you are and your worth.  He will then helplessly work to get to know you as his desire for you heighten and intensify.