3 Things that makes a Guy listen to you

Are you familiar with the sayings, “Who have ears to hear let them hear” and “those who don’t listen will feel?”  Don’t you wish these lines would speak directly to that special man in your life without you having to direct so much focus on the art of great communication?  
A definitive form in understanding the dynamics of communication is a basic description of a two-way process of reaching mutual understanding, but one person gives to or receives from another person’s information about that person's needs, desires etc.  However, when it comes to dealing with men it’s quite the contrary because a man doesn’t listen to you with his ear, PERIOD!!!  He’ll hear you alright; screaming, crying and watch you pull your hair out but none of this will speak any volume to him.  Here are a few ways to effectively and successfully get your point across:

Understanding what relationships means to a guy

Personally, my interpretation is very clear cut, relationships are HARD, STRESSFUL and CONFUSING.  Not many will admit or appreciate such honesty but since I’m a touchy, feely kina person I love to express my feelings and get straight to the point.  Relationships can also be seen as a social structure that meet the emotional, physical and sometimes spiritual needs of individuals, ideally that is.  But I wonder in more realistic terms, how does a man define the term “relationship?”  Are we both on the same page as far as expectations and its ideals?

Women tend to mistake sexual contact for the eloping of a relationship but who are you kidding? A guy’s interpretation of a relationship lies in your ability to conducting yourself accordingly with each and every encounter.  Don’t confuse his persistence on sex to mean that he sees you as the one.  Hun, not because you decide to open the cookie jar and give it away for free doesn’t seal any deal whatsoever.  Remember, in a guys mind, there can never be too many f@% buddies so get your mind right, close those legs and work on showing your man how you really esteem yourself.

Learning your own unique language of Love

The expression of Love is quite simple and not as complex as the makeup of the chambers of your heart.  We are well aware that we must first know Love in order to identify, respect and receive it when it is given.  Moreover, whatever you lack you must first find, (and or) create, feel and be able to/and willing to share.  If you want change, you must first work on yourself (actions) to influence change in others, and Love is no exception.

Therefore, ask yourselves this ladies, “How do I let my man knows how much I love him?”  “Do I need to do special things (tricks) to show him how much he means to me or do I just tell him?”  That’s right ladies, get to the point and just tell the man how you feel about him.  He’ll definitely understand, however, there’s no need to go overboard being all emotional and ish- going on and on about how hurt you were in the past and you’re not going to put your heart on the line to get hurt again because that will just chase the guy right through the front door.  Save the mushy stuff for your lil chats with ya gal pals.

Creating “the connection” you need with him

The power house of communication with a man doesn’t lie in one’s tone of voice, high pitch, accent, clarity, sensual or ecstatic words but simply in the connection you share. It does require some creativity to establish such a connection and we also have to bear in mind that there is “different strokes for different folks.” 

The only chitter chatter that will give you the connection you need between you and your man is delicately stroking his ego: remind him of the things he does to change your world and how it is positively impacting you and the relationship.  Words from the wise, it’s better to learn the skills to stroke a guy’s ego than what he has in his pants.