NO OPTION MAKES BEST CHOICES

The best choice is made when there was NO other OPTION but the worst choice is one that is made due to feelings and emotions.  With facts and fully understanding them we can MAKE GOOD, SOLID CHOICES because we get to weigh the pros and cons, however, we have to remind ourselves that there are CONSEQUENCES to all our actions and also ask ourselves, can we live with ourselves with the OUTCOME OF OUR CHOICES?  In other words, can we live with/without regrets after the decision is made?

I can only speak genuinely on behalf of myself and share my observations that I have seen in others on this topic because it is a subject matter that is uniquely and definitively expressed by the individual involved.  Making choices is an endeavor that we consciously and subconsciously undertake at any given moment.  Throughout any given day we probably make more than a couple without even putting much thought to it.  Believe it or not choices are not only the ones that affect our lives in a major way.  Getting out of bed in the morning is a choice and so is brushing your teeth, taking a shower, eating, going to work if you have one, being polite and even how you may feel.  Many might disagree with the feelings so I will put it this way, everything that you exercise power and control over, you also exercise the act of choosing.  The complexity and ease of choosing is what create confusion in understanding CHOICE.

We also strive to make the best choices even if we are not fully aware of what this means.  Yes, you have some people who consciously make poor choices but Im sure there is something in that individual that believes that “everything will work together for good” despite their current act of choosing.  This is evident in all intimate relationships as couples make a choice to be with their counterpart and so is everything else that follows; from the point of consummating the sexual bond to when the relationship will capsize.  Everything in between resulted through choices whether they were good or poor ones.  We also have bear in mind that we have to choose to get an awareness of the choices we make.

Many go about their lives on a daily basis subconsciously making choices because they are so repetitive that these actions are almost like second nature.  Take for example your commute to work; you will take the same route each day if there isn’t any obvious obstruction without realizing that there were probably two to three more similar paths you could have taken.  When you get to work and pull into the parking lot; the spot was handpicked by you unless there is valet parking.  Kicking it up a notch, in relationships we choose to feel the emotions we have experienced and the feelings we have for our partner which is expressed in their favor or ours.  The choice is always ours to make of course whether or not we think it’s the right thing to do or if we act a certain way there will some benefit (kickback). 

Once you get a grip that “things doesn’t just happen” or “this is not how it’s supposed to be” and realize that every action is a choice, I believe that we will become more aware that we do have power and control over what we do and what in return happens to us.  Now, if we want good things we have to make better choices and if we “GIVE UP” the power to choose, then poor choices will be the detonator to a rough life.  What are your thoughts?