Raising A Man is not only unfair, it's unwise

Being the mother of two young children, I have faced the many challenges that come along with raising children.  Despite the exhaustion and frustration that I may feel at times, the good times, Mommy I Love Yous, and the innocent, forgiving Love that I receive from them just makes it all worth it.  I didn’t have much preparation for all this responsibility but I accepted it with grace and a sense of pride that no mother can resist.  Taking care of your children is one thing but it shouldn’t be a one man job when there are two parents around.

I have no problem taking care of myself either but it is just totally unwise to entertain the irresponsible behaviors of a man, especially when it comes to handling business around the house and supporting his kids.  This has become a prevailing issue where men just enjoy a free ride in the relationship and think nothing of it.  It’s as if carrying a child for nine months during pregnancy and expressing the endurance of childbirth gives off a message that women are “beasts.”  We may exhibit the qualities of a beast because we have the brawn and muscles to hold down the family but some men just seem to take all that for granted.  

Don’t mistake a sister’s strength for madness because it’s insane to neglect all your responsibilities and leave them in the hands of your wife/girlfriend/mother of your child.  Dating other women, going on excursions and all expense paid fine dining and wining when you didn’t even provide food for your children doesn’t cut it.  Going on vacation with random chicks and not being able to pay Rent is not cute either.  Furthermore, showing off your kids to the world doesn’t define who you are as a father.  Any man can impregnate a female, brag about their kids, and make money the substitute for Love but it will take a real man to be a Dad who will be a great provider, protector and leader.

It is not a wife’s/girlfriend’s job to teach a man how to profess his love continually, protecting his seed and unit that he has created and model leadership qualities.  It is uncertain why a man would take comfort in having total disregard for his roles as a father and deny himself a true sense of purpose by having his priorities in total disorder.  Maybe women are to be blamed for this kind of behavior both as a mother and a partner but men do have a moral obligation to get it right but choose to do otherwise.  Personally, I am guilty for displaying a tough exterior, thriftiness, and giving off the idea that I can do it all alone, however, I refuse to raise a man.