Seek & you shall find

“Whatever you seek, seeks you.”  This is a popular saying which holds much weight than we thought.  Often times myself and I sit in the comfort of my thoughts trying to analyze life and people in general and the sad conclusion is that in everything that we do, work for, achieve, anticipate and expect in this life, it all boils down to our contribution. 
First, let me examine self- personally, I have hopes and dreams and a few expectations especially from certain individuals in my life.  I wish to be of service in a field where I can help and have a positive influence in the lives of others.  As for my set expectations, I placed them on the shoulders of my husband and children. 

Together as a unit, I have set goals of someday owning  a home somewhere in the Suburbs- a couple bedrooms, few bathrooms, swimming pool, long driveway, white picket fence and all the amenities that would guarantee comfort and style.  As for my husband, we will one day venture into the world of small business ownership, working alongside each other but at the same time making out own accomplishments.  As for my children, I am determined to make the sacrifice in having them achieve a solid education; live a life that will have a positive impact on how they will see themselves, others and  fitting in the world.  I totally agree that to some all these things mentioned above are very far-fetched but I’m confident that they are attainable and some people have already achieved.  Our minds are always set on thought and process to achieve.  We rarely succumb to the cause and effect rule but who have put thought to the “whatever you seek, seeks you?”

 In general, men crave financial security and stability while women seek security and support in their relationships.  Ideally, men are deemed head of the household while women are the heart of the home.  His responsibilities include leadership and being the provider.  As for her, she is the caregiver, nurturer who provides comfort to their surrounding environment, a shoulder to cry on and helping to relieve her husband of the daily stress of always being on the grind.  Realistically, today we have role changes which influenced all the chaos and instability in our lives.

Men now expect their woman to provide financially and still are in submission to him; females are head of households and wonder, what is the reason for the imbalance in the home?  Men seek affection outside their relationship when their women become overwhelmed with all the responsibilities and she is too exhausted to give him the time of day.  Considering that all the ‘checks’ and ‘balances’ are out of whack, where is our sense of direction in achieving those goals and set expectations that we mentioned earlier?

Yes, you guessed it!  We are headed somewhere but not in the direction where we intended, alright.  You also have parents who expect so much from their children but in efforts to give then literally everything, they work 2-3 jobs to fill the needs, compromising the structure of the home and disrupting the flow of things.  Now the children are living independent of having some parental control, hence performance in school is disappointing and the need for a change will come at an expensive price.  Then there are young men with ‘get rich’ attitudes but they have no formal education in profit and loss; young ladies desperately seeking the rise to fame but they have no real talent to substantiate a contract; and I can continue to state the obvious but I’m sure you get the point.

To the parent seeking extra income to have excess cash to fulfill wants, you seek money and compromise the well-being of your children.  To the woman who seeks independence, you emasculate your man, driving him in the arms of another. 
The woman who seeks desperately to find a mate, you risk finding someone who is already taken or who will mistreat you.  The man who seeks riches by illegitimate means, you forfeit your true purpose and eventually your freedom.  Last but not least, we seek our own selfish desires, being arbitrary in our spiritual beliefs; we risk losing our purpose, leading, security and wealth that were in our inheritance from our maker.