Ooops! I did it Again

I started looking in hopes of finding my joy but I found more than what I bargained for

I started feeling like a monster; it was so bad that I feel like I didn’t deserve it all
Now for the sake of the kids I wanted a change but it would never come



But I still waited and waited and waited
Now all I can see is the distortions, insinuations, and lies that have taken over my life
I’m on the verge of losing it all so I searched high and low, mountain tops and valleys but I couldn’t figure out how to get it all back

Now seriously, is that the way we should go about relationships?  Yeah, staying in a relationship for whatever reason/reasons should not be about anyone but the two people who made a conscious effort in sharing their lives together.  Sounds a bit harsh right?   But look at the reality of constantly living in annoyance and discomfort for the sake of a child.  Eventually it is this same child that will become a victim in distress as oppose to being a creation of a union that should have been based on principles instead of self-fulfilling motives.  Staying in a relationship with someone should be based on a positive outlook and distinct direction on where the experience is going to take the people involved.  Sounds like a bit of rambling but doesn’t it make more sense to be with someone because you love, admire and anticipate a future with them, based on the correct morals and principles?  Just being there for:
The Kids.  This is similar to a life sentence without parole because there is a lifelong bond that is shared between a parent and their offspring.  There are many children who spend their lives apart from their parents and developed healthy relationships without the great sacrifice of happiness and excess baggage.
Sex.  Sex is the most pleasurable experience shared between couples but how great can it be that one is held hostage in an unhealthy relationship that is not going any farther than between the sheets?  Material Possessions.  How long will you live in depravation of the most sought feeling, free to man yet unattainable by many?  Peace and love is not worth sacrificing for any house, car, boat or significant amount of money.  When their value is depleted or there is not much gratification left, what are you really left with?
Interest.   When your interest is peaked by what a person can/will do, if it doesn’t align with your goal or set expectations, what good is it?  Or how much is it worth just to have a companion?  One who can keep you interested but you both know that reality will set in and you both have to go your own separate way no matter how good everything seems to be. 

Succumbing to all the variables and factors mentioned above that is fueling an unhealthy relationship is just a waste of precious time and energy.  Trust, good communication, healthy beliefs and mutual understanding will prevail above all else because love is endowed in all the negatives and positive aspects in maintaining relationships.  We can no longer lie to ourselves believing that we only need love.  It is just a feeling and one can’t justify putting themselves in danger of becoming emotionally attached to someone or a relationship based on reasons that will not show positive direction or outcome.