Secrets: “What goes on in my life is nobody’s business.”

Many will admit to saying, “What goes on in my life is nobody’s business.” 


Is that an absolute inclination in going about one’s life and also making the decision to establish secrets?  Questioning the rights and wrongs of this predisposition is a contrary subject matter with conditional purpose.  Of course no one finds comfort in exposing their weaknesses and losses because we feel empowered to always celebrate our wins and strengths.  The constant struggles between facing the positives and shortcomings in our lives have literally driven a wedge into the face of reality. 

It’s a harsh truth in recognizing that obstacles are set before us not as a means of stripping our dignity but to reveal zeal, strength and nobility.  I believe that we are programmed to perceive the negatives in life as drawbacks or setbacks because we don’t fully understand it.  That which we can’t identify with we discard and fail at realizing that they are actual stepping stone into new awareness.  Personally, I have experienced so many distasteful situations that I might feel the urge to shun away and hide behind my shell; however, I have realized that I am not a victim of my circumstances.   Fortunately, I feel encouraged to focus on experience and truth like my life depends on it.  There is no surreal thought that I should deny who I am/how I see myself/how others see me.  As weird as it may sound I prefer to be dissected by my critics than to reassure myself that everything is alright when it’s not.

Many find solace in concealing the truth and create a much bigger problem by having secrets.  It’s such a seductive word that many is unable to resist its enigmas and surprises that comes along with it.  I guess like everything else that seeks to conquer, steal and destroy so is the nature of secrets.  Obviously, there is an awareness that’s something has to be wrong for you to feel the need to hide.  People with secrets put more work into keeping those skeletons in the closet than the energy they would otherwise use in dealing with their problems.  The latter brings forth contentment while the former creates a life of unease so what is it that allow someone to live with such awkwardness? 

In addition, always living on the edge of being exposed is rather a dark place to be.  Since there is more mystery in hiding than there is to bare it all, there is no logic to explain the whys, and hows.  I’m sure I’m not the only one feeling this way or have seen the evil that is contained in keeping secrets.   In my opinion, Nancy Lanza have succeeded in this aspect because she has contained and tried to trap the evil inside her closet, thinking its nobody’s business until the skeleton escaped bringing forth death upon innocent lives.  Her secret is exposed in such a manner that she wasn’t even given an opportunity to defend herself.   She is queen of all cover-ups and brings to light the saying, “seeing me and living with me are two separate things.”